There’s a prescription happening in the dating world - I’m curious if you’ve heard of it…

“Make a list of your dream partner’s qualities - the more detailed, the better.”

Have you heard some rendition of this?

Have you made a list?

At first glance, it makes sense. Visualization is a powerful tool - Brian Tracey said “you can’t hit a target you can’t see”

While the intention is pure- these lists can produce unintended consequences:

• they can create internal skepticism around the possibility of meeting someone who checks all the boxes : which makes YOU show up differently on dates

• you could pass on someone who could be fantastic for you because you were “honoring” your carefully crafted desires

• if someone does check all the boxes, you may be at risk of

  • getting attached too quickly because you feel like you’ve found the holy grail

  • staying in relationship longer than you should because you don’t know when the next time is that you’ll find this elusive mix of human

  • confused or disheartened because they were “right on paper” but wrong in person

Some might say, well I wrote these things — but I’m not tied to this person embodying everything on the list.

Let’s say you have a clear craving for a pancake.

So you make a list of ingredients, go to the store, but ugh - no baking powder.

You think, that’s okay - I’ll make a crepe.

In some cases, the crepe could be even better than what you imagined in your wildest pancake dreams.

But no matter how delightful it is, you live with the knowing that what you said you wanted… was a pancake.

Welcome to Settle city; population: you.

Unfortunately, dear reader, this twinge of “something’s missing” is not only a crack to the foundation of the relationship,

this is also the cardinal crime because — it’s made you question yourself.

Here’s where we take the reigns back.

I’d like to invite you to consider a different strategy for visualization, sense-making and choice.

One that side steps the energetic of “settling”,

hones in on what truly matters,

and actually develops your self trust.

In this live virtual workshop, we’ll touch on the top saboteurs that extend your timeline to partnership - and the fastest ways to close the gap.

…You ready?